Now that you have your copy of the Relationship Agreement. 

At the outset it would be fair to say that those reading this and contemplating a relationship agreement fall into two categories. Those not in a relationship and those in a relationship. The relationship agreement is ideally designed for those who were not in a relationship and are starting a relationship and can do so on the basis of the agreement. For them there is no problem as the RA is designed to be the basis of a relationship at its inception and should lead to no difficulties upon renewal or reciprocation and the relationship can evolve though a succession  of RA's.

However there will be many who are already in a relationship that may have another basis or no basis and hence there may be some gear shifting and probably desirable attention to detail and accommodation on both sides required. If there was no basis for the relationship there should be few problems and a basis and agreement can be desirable and adaption relatively painless. If there is an alternative basis this can be accommodated or dovetailed in terms of the troth and the additional terms perhaps no matter how long and deeply established and I see no basis for retiscence in formalizing it in written terms even if deeply established (though it may be a challenge and take numerous attempts and revisions). There should be no problem reflecting the already existing basis in the additional terms if you wish to. The only forseeable problem could be joint assets which have been acquired during the union of the relationship so attention may need to be given here in terms of the troth and the terms in the light of the fact that RA's come up for renewal or reciprocation or the alternative. Joint possessions and having to decide what to do with them can be a very good reason for continual renewals or reciprocations if the union is tied up in or the sum of the possessions. Terms can be reviewed and perfected or altered at the first two of these events allowing even a preexisting relationship to adapt to an RA so as to further evolve and grow and not stagnate.    

Now that you have your copy of the Personal Relationship Agreement all that remains is to put it in to action. If you are in a relationship you will have to propose it to your partner and this is best done by having them read through all the notes so print all the notes off for your partner. Initially you will need to give them time to think about it so give them copies of everything and then discuss how best to detail the provided, and  any extra, terms of the RA for yourselves. If you are in a marriage consider how best to present it to your spouse and how best to implement it and what, if any, extra terms to add. If you are single and are seeking a relationship and are dating then key to endless dating with no major event is to "perelize" the dating process with a perel agreement. An RA turns the dating into a relationship and is the formal step that has been missing. Take the RA and the notes on dates with you to let prospective partners know where you are heading. It will make your dating very interesting. You could say something like "This is not yet in vogue. It is still about 20 years ahead of its time but I wanna do it". A wooee will most likely not enter into an RA with you on day one (it would be fabulous if they did) but it breaks the ice and you can return to it after some weeks or months when the foundation of your new friend/relationship is stronger and when you are both ready for some degree of agreed dedication and commitment. Presenting a platform and structure for a relationship will speed up your prospects of entering into a relationship with someone serious and like minded. If they are not interested in you but are interested in the Relationship Agreement concept give them the website address so they can get their own copy, as you only have license to reproduce three copies.

When you present the RA have two copies and a troth in an amount you consider suitable but not excessive or paltry in an envelope, sealed or open, and perhaps put it on the table as they read it for a reaction if their impression upon reading is positive for you. This will show you are being serious and they will have to take the matter more seriously. On initially presenting the RA it will be a talking point to be returned to for further consideration later on. If the person really likes you they may sign up straightaway for a short term, especially when the troth making the agreement binding is presented for their caretaking. Only if the wooee agrees to participate should each person fill out one of the RA's and the troth change hands. If they reject the bond but sign up for the agreement then the agreement is not binding because no consideration has changed hands. If they do not wish to accept the bond then suggest they supply the bond to you instead as a bond must change hands from wooer to wooee or wooee to wooer (If they prefer you both can supply separate bonds to each other in equal or differing amounts and do two parallel agreements (4 copies, 2 x 2), one in respect of each bond, with identical or differing terms.) 

It is suggested that you make your initial RA term for only 2 or 3 months. This will give you time to rethink your terms and the second RA agreement after 2 or 3 months, when it is renewed or reciprocated, can have terms which you have really put some thought into to make your relationship fire and near perfect. The bond can be rolled over or reciprocated or increased or made afresh.

If you like a testing out phase for compatibility prior to entering into an RA could take up to one month and then the RA could start from the beginning of the next calendar month.

Agree on what would be a suitable term: perhaps a matter of a few months when dating, many months or a year or two for those in a relationship and a marriage. Remember the RA can always be renewed, rolled over or reciprocated at the end of the term and each renewal  can be and should be a cause for celebration and perhaps fresh rethought out terms and so you should not make the terms too long and so miss out on celebrations and adjustments.

The troth (bond, consideration) if accepted should be placed in an envelope and sealed with the amount written on the front and given to the wooee for safekeeping. The envelope is not to be opened until the end of the term, or an agreed consequence may apply. If there is no renewal and no reciprocation at the end of the term then the wooee opens and keeps the bond. If the agreement is renewed it is retained by the wooee and if the agreement is reciprocated then it and any additional stepped up amount is passed back to the suitor/now suitee for safe keeping under any agreed conditions.

The troth or consideration is typically an amount of money but in an enduring more serious and public RA it can be a ring, (which may be worn on the right hand, for the term of the agreement) either by the wooee or, in a reciprocal agreement, by both.

The proposal of entering into a relationship agreement and the payment of the troth shows that the man or women making the proposal and supplying the troth cares and holds you in esteem and treasures your company. It is a supreme compliment.

People fall into two categories irrespective of whether they are male or female. Gender is unimportant. There are the choosers and the chosen, the suitors and the suitees, the wooers and the wooee. Some like to be the ones making the choice and approach by whatever means, obvious or subtle, to the ones they choose are the ones of their selection. Others enjoy the compliment of being approached and being propositioned. They are happy to be chosen because they know the person who has approached, chosen and propositioned them really likes them and that they like. And of course everyone likes to receive a formal concrete serious proposition accompanied by a respectable troth if they like the person. They feel very complimented, even if they say no.

In the world of work and business men relate to written agreement and workplace agreements and it is perfectly acceptable for a women to work out who would be the best man for her and to approach him to sign him up for a relationship so she will not lose him and have him to herself with evidence in the form of an enforceable RA to signify commitment. When the man accepts the troth from the women he is committed for the term of the RA and he is hers, just as if he approached the lady and she accepted the troth and she was his for the term of the RA.

After you have each completed your copy of an RA send us a copy if you would like to be in the judging of the best RA of the month or year.  

After you have entered into or renewed or reciprocated your Relationship Agreement with your partner please send a copy, not your originals which you both keep, with or without an accompanying letter, to me, David,  at Relationship Agreements at 8/1 Curtin Place, Concord, 2137, NSW, Australia.

Optional Gift Payment

Your copy of the Relationship Agreement and the notes are free. In this way you can put it into action and experience the benefits in your relationship at no cost, apart from the bond which stays between the two of you.

However we ask that after a period of your own choosing that if, and only if, you have found the benefits of the Relationship Agreement worthwhile you decide between yourselves, or make your own decision, to make a donation in an amount of your own choosing. It could be equal to the bond (it should not be the bond itself) or what you think it the experiece has been worth. It could be paid upon renewal/s or reciprocation/s or whenever and can be made via paypal on the website or by posting a cheque or ringing. If you do so please include a copy of your completed relationship agreement, if you have not already sent one, and maybe a letter or note as to your experiences and any suggestions.  

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