FINDING THE ONE: COURSE NOTES

There are 4,000,000 people in Sydney, 20,000,000 in Australia. If you are compatible with only 1 in a 1,000 then there are 4,000 in Sydney or 20,000 nationally who should be just right for you.

If you are already compatible with 4,000 then you do not have to do a course so much to make yourself compatible, although these may have their place, but rather to find some of those 4,000 people with whom you are suited. It is just a matter of finding some. Of the 4,000,000, let's say 800,000 are singles, or 1 in 5 between ages 25 and 70. Many do not go to the events and not many are actually on the internet. We call these people isolates. Many of these people are staying home at night watching TV (as witnessed by the tremendously high ratings figures). Many are wanting to find someone. Not all are in relationships. If they are, many relationships are fluid.

The way to find members of the opposite sex is by going to events, meeting online and through the papers. These are called being "on the beaten track" and by all means you can do these. You certainly should be coming to the events which are organized and on the website and many on the course have been doing just that. However when you meet someone who attends events or is on the net a relationship may not last as they may continue to go out and meet more people or know where to go and what to do to quickly meet more people should difficult times come in a relationship as often happens and so such relationships often may not last.

But there are the majority of available people who are "off the beaten track" who are not using these means and who are the best to find as they are not likely to quickly discover someone else in their travels on the net or at events and it is these we also wish to find. What are the means to do so?

Apart from going to events and being on the internet we focus on having a good Partner Finding card which we create on this course and this is our focus tonight.

One should always be prepared with a good partner finding card as you never know when one will be needed to make an effective introduction. You can be active and put out many of them or be passive and just have one ready and to give out when you see a person of interest. The more thought you put into your card and the more you have circulating the better, of course, will be your results. Recommended minimum number to make up to make inroads into the 800,000 is 200 - 1,000.

On side one is a little about you, just enough points to fill the card and to get a person to make that call to you. Side 1 should certainly be more than just a name and number, you should disclose some of your best points and your age. If you are not forthcoming and interesting don't expect your cards to meet with much success. It may be an idea to have a friend or another person on the course to help you work out your description.
Side 2 is about the person you wish to meet to narrow down the responses to the qualified right ones. If you are happy to meet the person first rather than them disqualifying themselves make side two fairly general but you should include the ages you are after.
You do not need to put your name, although it makes it more attractive, on your card, a contact number or email will do. A well worded card, which a recipient will treasure, can do much to create affinity which will later form a foundation of a close relationship.

The cards can be done on Word or Excel. You will need to lay out a grid for 10 cards on an A4 size page on Word or Excel to type into of 55mm x 89mm. Type in your wording into the top left card rectangle and copy and paste into the others. Do 10 per sheet on card sheets you can get from Officeworks or Officeworks can print them off for you on cardpaper and you cut them up. You can even do them on plain paper, photocopying double sided and put or hand them out like that. However well thought out wording and attractive design is critical. For a better presentation you can visit office.microsoft.com (or search Google on keywords: "business card templates or design") to obtain card templates and clipart for doing cards printed on to plain white card stock. A well worded and well designed card can yield 10 to 20 times the results of a poorly worded and poorly designed card. On your card at at the bottom left of side one you could have the words "ft1 course". At the end of your description on side one you should have the words "Int. in RA" (for interested in a relationship agreement, this will lead on to the relationship agreement). On the bottom line of side two you should have the words small print in italics "If this is not for you please keep and pass on to a friend". Two of your cards with these three additions must be handed in as part of your completion of the course.

Theoretically 10 cards distributed should bring twice the results of 5 cards and find someone who is twice as suitable.
20 cards should bring twice the results of 10 cards and find someone who is twice as suitable again.
40 cards should bring twice the results of 20 cards and find someone who is twice as suitable again.
80 cards should bring twice the results of 40 cards and find someone who is twice as suitable again.
160 cards should bring twice the results of 80 cards and find someone who is twice as suitable again.
320 cards should bring twice the results of 160 cards and find someone who is twice as suitable again.
640 cards should bring twice the results of 320 cards and find someone who is twice as suitable again.
For maximum results and maximum satisfaction put out the maximum number of cards. For few results put out few cards. A penetration of about 1,000 - 2,000 cards into the some 800,000 singles in Sydney should bring some gratifying results. As you sow so shall you reap. The more seeds you sow the bigger and better the harvest and the greater your chances of finding some gems. Each card you give out can be a key which opens doors you could never open otherwise. The cards are your little soldiers, get them out there working for you.

Most desirably you should do your cards on your computer and printer so you can do as many as you wish. If you don't have a printer you can take the disk, once you have done your cards on it, to Officeworks or Kinko and they will print them off onto card stock, but you should cut them up as they charge a lot for cutting.

WAYS OF DISTRIBUTING THE CARDS

The only thing that stands between you and success in the distributing of your cards is fear, which creates a prison which keeps you single, and perhaps indolence. Overcome these two and the cards will do their work.

You can adopt a direct approach or an indirect approach. A direct approach has its advantages in that it can lead to interaction but is slower. An indirect approach allows you to get more cards into the hands of more people but has its disadvantages in that the people may not see you when they get the card.

If you are being pro-active with your cards then always be suitably dressed when giving out your cards. Set a target as to how many you are going to give out in a giving out session.

* Give out 5 - 10 cards each to each of your girlfriends or mates to give out to members of the opposite sex or to their friends to locate people who they think would respond to your card. Tell them there will be an appreciative reward for the person who finds the right mate for you. You could also give them $20 to remind them to give out the cards and not neglect them. In week 3 you will learn how the showing of an RA can result in receipt of a consideration to defray the cost of incentive payments made to friends to give out the cards for you so you are not out of pocket.
* Give 5 - 10 cards to your dates with whom you will not be proceeding to an RA with. They have met you and found you nice and friendly and can give your cards to some available friends or workmates or relatives etc. and can recommend you to them.
* Give out cards by putting them out in shops where members of the opposite sex would go in little plastic card holder stands. Put out 20 stands at 15 cards each and keep records as to where they were put out and how many have produced a result. Revisit your sites each month and count how many cards have been taken and top up your sites. Keep looking for new busy traffic sites.
* Attend singles events and give cards out to people whom you find interesting and would like to get to know. Either go on your own or with a friend who could give the cards out for you if you are not game. Set a target for yourself as to how many you will give out on the night. Say to yourself at large events "I will give out 15 cards tonight to the best people here". At smaller events like mine bring your cards to give to people of the opposite sex you meet either out of interest for them or for them to pass on to friends.
* Catch taxis and give 20 cards to the taxi driver to give out to nice members of the opposite sex. Teach the taxi driver the questions to ask of his fares to determine if they are suitable to give a card to. Give the driver a $20 tip to give out 20 of your cards. Give 60 cards to friends who catch taxis and tell them to give them to three taxi drivers and instruct them on how to instruct the taxi driver to give out the cards for you. Reimburse them the tips given out.
* Give them to ministers or priests of churches you visit to give them to people who they think would be suitable.
* If you are really direct and active give out 50 cards within 30 minutes in the city and see how long you can go before someone stops you to engage you in conversation. If you are not game have a friend to do it and pay them $20.
* Pick the top 50 companies in Australia from the financial pages of the paper and have the receptionist or company secretary give 10 each to the most eligible people in the company.
* Drop them in letterboxes of nice houses or units or townhouses etc.
* Go to dance classes. Many people, but not all, go to dance classes, not to become expert dancers but to meet people. Go to different dance classes and give out your cards to some of the people you dance with.
* Everyone who is single has to go to the supermarket sometime. Go to different supermarkets in strategic and preferred areas on different nights or days and set a goal of dropping cards in the shopping trollies of 5 to 10 people you fancy. Be well dressed when you drop the cards. It may lead to brief conversations and new friendships.
*Put up cards on noticeboards at various supermarkets, gyms, etc. Workplaces and businesses often have internal noticeboards and the receptionist can put a card up on one for you.
* Guys: Give your 5 - 10 cards to male workmates to give to their wives, many of whom love matchmaking, for them to locate women for you. Women could try doing the same with female work colleagues to give to their husbands to find males for them.
* Put the your cards under the windscreens of cars that appeal to you.
* Have your cards with you when, at events, you are asked for your phone number by members of the opposite sex. Many women and men complain that men or women ask for their phone numbers and their number is written down on a scrap of paper and the men or women never ring. Something more is needed than just a phone number but rather a description of the person to remind the man or woman who it was so he or she will ring. Having your card available could be the key that leads to that nice person who asked for your phone number to make that call.
* By handing in two of your cards during the course to go in the card book future people seeking relationships who do the future courses will see your card.
* Bring your cards along to future nights of the course to give to future attendees of the course who are also wanting to meet someone for a serious relationship. Past graduates meet downstairs at 8.30pm to meet the new attendees.

To give out a card directly to an interesting stranger try saying "I'm sorry there is no one to introduce us but I'd like to give you my card and get one of yours, if you have one. Let's swap cards. If my card is not suitable for you please pass it on to a friend, otherwise feel free to ring". Another opening line could be "Excuse me, nothing ventured, nothing gained. I'd like to give you one of my cards and if you've got one, get one of yours."
Many times the card will act as an ice breaker and conversation starter and you will make a new friend. Be ready to have a conversation, the person may prove to be ready and available for you. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush so to speak. You could continue by saying "I should really leave the ball in your hands and leave you to contact me. I could say if you've got a moment let's be daring and meet for coffee but you're probably busy right now and don't have time." They may suddenly find the time and respond to you as a person who is spontaneous and ready to meet someone special too which is good. If not tell them to ring you later or pass the card on to a suitable friend.

When you receive a phone call from someone who has seen your card, if they ask you on the phone "what is an RA" tell them "I'll show you when I see you". Don't discuss the RA on the phone. Leave it till you meet them and show them then, since they asked.

With many cards being given out and in circulation you should get many responses, although expect a response rate for a well worded and well designed card of about 5 - 10%. Not all the responses will come at once. Some people will carry the card around in their wallet or purse for weeks or months before they are ready or have the courage to nervously ring or remember to give it to a friend. Many should ring fairly promptly but make sure you have put out plenty of cards, don't expect too much from too few. With numerous responses you can afford to be selective and insist upon a completed RA but don't be so selective that the number of people of the 20,000,000 in Australia that you are satisfied with is 0.

Click here for an example of the a double sided partner finding card.

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